What is the deal with women nowadays? After Katy Perry and her cupcake and whipped cream boobs in the video of “California Girls” feat. Snoop Dogg, Lady Gaga shows herself with machine guns fixed on her bra on on the cover of Rolling Stone for her fascist dictature style and rather disturbing video "Alejandro". Sure, Jean-Paul Gauthier featured his iconic cone bustier in his last fashion shows, but seriously, I think it shows a real social problem, not limited to weapon bras.
Huston, we have a problem
High heels are often considered to be an ersatz for penis. The proliferation of 15 cm high Louboutin and Co. stilettos should raise a few concerns. Don’t get me wrong, I love high heels and the sexiness you feel in a pair of pumps is awesome. But the fact is that it seems it’s not just to get a nice feeling or to have fun that more and more women dress up. Also, it is frightening to see how many women get breast implants every year, and especially how young they are. The figures reveal that 40% of the breast surgeries in Spain (many women from other countries go there because the surgery is cheaper) and in the US are on women aged under 21. OMFG!
The fact is that it seems that women have grown up to the idea that they are as powerful as men. The problem is that they apparently take the bad side of the male counterpart by wanting to show how sexually liberated they are. Enjoying sex and being proud of your sexuality is great, but when it turns to exhibition and competition, it is rather the expression of insecurites than of freedom. It is not shocking anymore to openly have sex buddies and to talk in great details over a cappuccino about all the sex you had the night before, the rule being the dirtier, the better. I really don't want to blame anyone because men nor women are directly responsible for what is happening here. They are rather players or victims in a much bigger game. Just take a look at the social pressure: Women are constantly under the pressure of being sexy, self-confident, and all-mighty alien who must be at the same time the bombshell, the succesfull business-women and the mother (Angelina Jolie-style... even if her reality is certainly not so perfect as it seems). Under this growing pressure, it seems that women become competitive with each other and their body is the physical object on which this competition is concentrated. Like men are concerned about who has the biggest, women compete also to know who has the biggest. The only difference is that they talk about their breasts. But men don’t go so far as getting penis implants to raise the stakes. Women instead, go under the knife. A whim that costs about 3000 €, that has risks just like every surgery if not more -amongst others: terrible pain, hard breasts, infection, healing problems, breasts slipping out of place, loss of nipple sensitivity-, without mentioning the fact that those implants don't last forever and they'll have to be replaced anyway (or else they will rupture).
At this pace, small breasts may soon become a rarity –an abnormality in the eyes of some crazy people–. But WHY??? Certainly not because of men: Yes they might nourish fantasies about huge breasts, but it’s not the depth of your cleavage that will make a man fall in love with you. Don’t even talk to me about having more self-confidence! Who brainwashed so many people – and keep brainwashing them- to make them believe that big boobs give more self-confidence, just like showing yourself naked or dancing on a striper pool shows how confident and liberated you are? Sorry, but you can do all those and still really doubt yourself and be full of complexes (I let you pick the examples since there are plenty of them).
I am confident because I respect myself and I accept myself as I am. Is that not exactly how we wish others to treat us? With respect and accepting us as we are? If you have a low self-esteem, silicon is not the answer. It will at best conceal the real issue under the layer of a bigger bra.
Why don’t we hear and see more often how beautiful and sexy women with small breasts are? On top of that, they are smart, confident and successful! Look at a few examples: Natalie Portman, Vanessa Paradis, Kate Hudson, Zoe Zaldana, Mila Jovovich, Michelle Pfeiffer, Sienna Miller, Gwyneth Paltrow, Kirsten Dunst, Gwen Stefani, Keira Knightley, Kate Moss, Kirsten Stewart, Freida Pinto, Leighton Meester…
“Lucky that my breasts are small and humble so you don't confuse them with mountains“ (Shakira)
“I think the quality of sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in you or it isn't and it really doesn't have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of your lips.”
And you know what they say: "more than handful, it’s a waste.“
One last thing: I found a video just before posting that article. It is about "does size mater" regarding boobs and if it is really worth to have a boob job.